by Henry Makow Ph.D. – September 10, 2012
The first one, from Psychology Today, begins: “For most people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives.”
This is our PRIMARY brainwashing, delivered by Hollywood. The plot is always: find love, have sex, live happily ever after. “Love” is the religion. Sex is the holy sacrament.
We are programmed to be co-dependent. Every song is a variation of “you are my sunshine” and “I can’t live without you!”
When I consider the energy I expended in this quest for “meaning”, I feel betrayed. Especially considering how stupid, deceitful and vain some of the women were.
When I recall my mental habit of seeing women as the “key” to my happiness and masculine development- I feel both duped and stupid.
I expect many people have found “meaningful relationships.” Finally, even I derive considerable satisfaction from my marriage.
But “most meaningful element in my life”?
No, I wouldn’t jeopardize it with such expectations.
The problem isn’t with my “relationship.” Romantic relationships were not designed to be “the most meaningful element in our lives.”
Romance should be a small but important part of our lives. Maybe 25% for men; 50% for women. (Yes, I believe women should have more invested in love.)
WHAT ELSE IS THERE?